Mean people hurt others. Good people love others.
If you have been through any type of meanness or cruelty you will understand where I am coming from. When someone does something mean to you, your first reaction is to get even, or to try to justify yourself. This is absolutely the worst thing that you can do, and I’ll tell you why.
Just imagine for a moment; you are on a street walking, there is a line in the middle of the road and the person who wronged you is on the other side of the street walking toward you. As you both walk closer she is yelling obscenities and carrying on, talking a mile a minute and throwing accusations and just being mean. Now there are two ways to handle this scenario, you’ll get my point in a moment.
You can start by yelling obscenities back at her. Totally enraged now, you are carrying on just like her. Look, you both are right in each other’s face standing on the line in the middle of the street. Mission complete, you are now both on the same level. Yes, meanness won over your pride and your dignity. You have succumbed to a world where she lives and her words and actions are used very often.
You can walk on by, unscathed by her words or actions. Sit in the truth of knowing exactly who you are and what you stand for. Don’t give your power to anyone. Here’s the thing, people don’t usually change, we are creatures of habit. People have to want to change, some don’t know where to start and some are too lazy. For some, it is not in their vocabulary.
So, you are not going to change someone no matter how much you yell or scream. So why would you want to stoop down to their level and be mean like them, if even a second? Your thoughts should be, I am so happy I am not like them. They wasted all that time and energy, it could have gone to better themselves.
Another point to add in that is very important. It is about forgiveness. The reason I say to forgive someone is a matter of personal choice is because it is. Only you know your own journey, the healing is about you. But I can tell you this. When you feel anger and want to hurt the person that hurt you, think about that line in the road. Think about every mean thought. Are you being just like them? I know I don’t want to be mean like that. I’m better than that. It’s a hard pill to swallow. I’ve read some amazing stories about forgiveness. I truly believe when evil things are done in this world it pushes you towards the center line in the road, closer to the mean person. You just have to be strong to realize it and know that they’re not worth your time. There are far more important things in this world that need your attention. Mean might be the only thing they know how to be, and you can’t fix that, only they can.
**I use the words her/she as an example only. It can be stated as her/him or he/she. Thank you.