Your Fears-Friend or Foe?

The purpose of fear is to keep us from getting hurt, a built in protection mechanism. Unfortunately, we begin to fear many things other than those that will actually cause us harm. Through association, past experience or our vivid imaginations, the list of things that elicit fear grows as we get older. At some point in your life you felt something, usually pain that made your brain exclaim, “I never want to feel like that again!” Your brain took you seriously and vowed to keep you safe. Your brain establishes fear to act as your emotional guardian.

When a situation presents itself in which you think you may not be accepted for who you are, fear flashes warnings, telling you, “Don’t go there. Don’t do that. And definitely don’t do that!” Fear’s main role is to guard you against any feelings that would confirm your worst fear-that you are not good enough. This fuels a self fulfilling prophecy- an inability to accept yourself.

Of course the catch is that to totally embrace yourself you must stretch and risk but fear will do everything in its power to prevent that because those things are seen as threats. In the end, to own our power, strength and courage we must accept the fullness of our or who we are, and that includes our limitations and understanding our fears.

Think of your fear as the gatekeeper of your comfort zone. Your comfort zone is what you are comfortable with, where you feel safe. Your comfort zone is all the places you know, the people and routines you are used to and the things that are predictable to you. The problem is safe is stagnant. Another problem with safe is that anything new you want to do, learn or be threatens that familiar comfort zone and elicits a fear response. The bottom line is that if you want change you will have to face some fear. Let’s examine your fear.

1. What is your definition of fear?

2. How does fear show up in your everyday life?

3. What areas of your life are run by fear?

4. What actions do you take when you are in fear?

5. Name one event or situation that fear has played a part in your life?

Simply examining your fear can be incredibly enlightening and put you on the path of change.

Live Your Best Life,

Liane Fitzpatrick

“Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood.” Helen Keller

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